Private Mentoring with Julie Lam
Your own child and story at the centre, and someone wholly in your corner.
One-to-one mentoring for parents, over three months, in London, Hong Kong or online, with someone who has over thirty years’ experience supporting parents and children.
- Ten private sessions over three months
- My support between sessions
- Resources to support your discoveries
- The option to experience one group practice
- In person in London or Hong Kong, or online
- £1,500. I work with a small number of parents at a time.
Who this is for
- Your child has every opportunity you can give, and you still carry questions on your own: whether this school is right, how full the week should be, what your child is asking of you just now
- There are many books that teach us about parenting and children in general. Your own child is the book you can read, and you’d like someone beside you as you do
- Something has brought them into focus: a first school interview, exam season, a move to a new school or city, a child leaving home
- You’d like somewhere private to think it through, with the whole conversation about your family
- You’d like time that is for you too: your own needs and values, and the story you carry
What becomes possible
- You feel settled in your decisions about school, tutors and activities, knowing what to keep and what to let go
- You recognise when your child needs downtime, not another activity
- A vision for your home begins to take shape in ordinary days
- You feel less need to explain or defend your choices to other parents
- You’re clearer about your own values, and about what you need as a parent
- You enjoy your child more, and feel more at ease as the parent you already are
What makes it different
It begins with you.
This is The Present Parent Practice, so there’s room for your own needs and values, and for your story. The more at home you are in yourself, the more clearly you read your child.
My dedicated attention, during and between sessions.
For these three months, I hold you and your child in mind. When a hard moment comes, you’re not on your own.
A vision for your home.
Together we imagine what balance at home could look like for your family in particular, and I dedicate my support to helping you bring that vision to life. There’s no judgement or analysis, and no list of to-dos. Perhaps it’s a new rhythm to the day or the week, or a few things simplified, making room for moments of pause and connection, where presence can grow.
Going deeper, in a safely held space.
There’s time to uncover what sits beneath your own responses, at a pace that’s entirely yours. Whatever you bring is met with care.
Two armchairs by a fire
That’s the feeling of our time together. It’s warm and honest, and dedicated to uncovering your own wisdom. You’re met by a steady presence who trusts what you know and has seen many lives unfold.
Children need to be met, and so do parents. Here you’re listened to without being hurried, corrected or interpreted, with room to find your own words. When we are met in presence, we can remember our own.
How it unfolds
We meet most weeks, walking the same pathway as the group at the pace of your own story. Our conversations may explore:
- what you’re noticing in your child, and what this stage asks of you
- your own values and sense of purpose, as a parent and beyond
- how your own childhood may shape your responses today
- small, real changes for everyday family life
Because the changes come from you, they last.
What I’ve come to know →
Why work with me
- Over thirty years mentoring parents, alongside children, families and teachers in Hong Kong and the UK
- Three schools founded, beginning with Highgate House in Hong Kong
- Ten years leading an Ofqual-regulated teacher training with my colleague Delia Sesiu, and creating four of its units with Crossfields Institute
- Author of From the Heart of Childhood and The Way We Meet, and a writer for Juno, The Green Parent and Kindling
- Mother of four, raised between Hong Kong and UK schools
I remember being that parent: tired, keeping up, knowing something was off but too stretched to trust it. If someone had offered me time like this back then, I would have loved it.
“The sessions feel calm yet powerful. I am beginning to see that it's not always about learning another strategy in order to control the situation. I have come to realize that I know my own child better than anyone else could. I feel as though I am back in a flow and I am so grateful to have a partner walk through this with me, who is dedicated to me hearing my own voice again.”
Questions
Will you tell me what to do?
No lists of techniques or scripts. Each conversation comes back to your family now, and you choose what to bring home, with me alongside you.
Should I choose one-to-one or the group?
The group brings the richness of many voices. Here the whole conversation is about your family. We can talk through which feels right.
Can my partner come too?
Private mentoring is with one parent. What you discover comes home with you.
Will my child fall behind?
Not at all. A child who feels heard and at ease brings more to learning, not less.
Is this therapy?
No. This is mentoring in presence and reflection, not a substitute for clinical support.
Book a free conversation
- Book a free conversation
- We talk about what matters to you, and see together whether this feels right. There’s no obligation to continue.
- We choose a start date, and times that fit your week.
The way you listen is the way you live your life.